Basics of Healthy RelationshipsBy: Jim RohnNothing can bring more joy to life than beautifully fulfilling relationships. And, of course, as many people find out, nothing can bring so much pain as a broken relationship with someone dear to you. Relationships make the world go round. For better or for worse. The exciting thing is that we can do much to increase our chances of having terrific relationshipsrelationships that are fulfilling and exciting, rich with meaning, joy and love. There are basics that govern most human relationships Love. Now, this all depends on your definition of love. Most people think that love is a feeling, but I would strongly debate that point. Love is much deeper than a feeling. Love is a commitment we make to people to always treat that person right and honorably. Yes, for those we become especially close to, we will have feelings of love. But, we must expand our definition of what love means by including the commitment aspect of love. For healthy relationships, we must love everyone. We may not like them based on how we feel about them, but we should love them based on our definition of love, which, in turn, determines how we should act toward themtreat them right and honorably. This is the basis of all healthy relationships. Serving Heart. My good friend Zig Ziglar says frequently that You can have everything you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want. The concept he is talking about is having a heart and life that is focused on serving other people. The Bible puts it this way: Consider others interests as more important than your own. This is also fundamental to healthy relationships. Honest Communication. In any good relationship, you will find open and honest communication. Communication is so important because it is the vehicle that allows us to verbalize what is inside us and enables it to connect with another person. And this is a vital goal in good relationshipsto communicate, to tell each other what we are thinking and what we are feeling. It enables us to make a connection. Sometimes we are the one speaking, and other times we are listening. Either way, the central tenet is communication for the sake of building the relationship and making it stronger. If we communicate skillfully, we can work miracles! Friendliness. Put simply, relationships just work better when we are friendly with others. Being friendly can cushion the bumpy ride we sometimes experience in our relationships. Cheerfulness goes a long way toward building lasting relationships. Nobody wants to be around a grump, do they? The fact is that the friendlier you are, the more you are going to have people who want to pursue longer-lasting, mutually beneficial relationships with you. So cheer up, put on a smile, have kind words to say to others, treat people with a great deal of friendliness, and you will see your relationships improve. Patience. People being people, we have an awful lot of time for practice in the area of patience. People are not perfect and will constantly fail us. And, conversely, we will fail other people. So while we have more patience for others, we needtheir patience as well. So often, I think relationships break down because people give up and lose patience. I am talking about all kinds of friendships, marriages, business relationships, etc. Recent research has shown that those marriages that go through major turmoil and then make it through are very strong after doing so. Patience wins out. Those who give up on relationships too early or because the otherperson isnt perfect often forget that their next friend, their next spouse or business partner will not be perfect either! So, we would do well to cultivate this skill and learn to have more patience. Loyalty. Loyalty is a commitment to another person. Sadly, loyalty is often a missing element in many relationships today. We have forgotten what it means to be loyal. Our consumer mentality has affected this to some degree. People are no longer loyal to a product. And, unfortunately, many companies are not loyal to their clients or patrons. Regrettably, this has spilled over into our relationships. It is one thing to switch brands of dishwashing detergent. It is another thing altogether to switch friends. Sometimes we just need to commit to being loyal and let the relationship move forward. We need a higher level of stick-to-it-iveness! This kind of loyalty will take our relationships to a much deeper level. What a powerful and secure feeling of knowing that you have a relationship with someone who is loyal to you and you to themthat neither of you is going anywhere even when things get tough. Wowhow powerful! Common Purpose. One of the basics of healthy relationships is to have a common purpose, and oftentimes this is a component that is initially overlooked, but for a long-term, long-lasting relationship it is vital. Think about how many friends you have met through the years while working on a common purpose. Maybe it was someone you met while participating in sports, while working on a political campaign, attending church, at your office, or anything that brought you together to work on a common purpose. You had that strong common bond of purpose that brought you together and held you together. Working together, building together, failing and succeeding togetherall while pursuing a common purposethat is what relationships are made of. Find people with whom you have common purposes and sow the seeds of great relationships, and then reap the long-lasting benefits. Fun. All good relationships have some element of fun. Now, that doesnt necessarily mean loud, raucous fun, though that is appropriate for some relationships. But even in business relationships there should be some fun. It should be fun to do business with those who you are going to have a long-term business relationship with. Fun brings enjoyment to the relationship, and that is important. I think that oftentimes this key element can be easily forgotten or neglected in our family and spousal relationships. The fun things we did initially in a new relationship after a while can be taken for granted or simply fall by the wayside and we stop creating the fun and joy. So remember to consciously craft fun situations and moments, for these are the glue that hold our memories together and make our lives sweet. There are so many key ingredients to making and maintaining great, long-lasting relationships. Each of the eight components we discussed brings unique dynamics and rewards to your relationships. Lets begin to focus on improving our relationships in these areas and see what miracles occur! |
ArticlesStreet Smart ChildTen Ways to Help Children Build-Self Esteem Drug Free Child LIBERATE YOURSELF FROM CLASSICAL -KARATE Weigh, count and measure Three Rules for Turning STRESS into SUCCESS YOU DON NOT HAVE TO WANT TO MOW THE LAWN Top Five Ways to be a V.I.P. Why Every Parent Should Have Their Child Learn Martial Arts Basics of Healthy Relationships On being a Black Belt Seven Qualities of a Champion You Black Belt Exam Winning the race takes more than speed The Adventure of Life Set A Goal, How About Right NOW! Make a Habit of taking Instant Action Failure Is Not An Option Martial arts bring focus Stop Procrastinating ACTION Yields Results 5 HOMEWORK STRATEGIES that Work for Kids What is your most valuable asset? My Son Our morning walk Sculptor Other side of the river Assuming Principles of Black Belt in Action Crabs Culture My experience at a karate birthday party The Game Stick to the Flight Plan I Know Writing Can Improve Your Life The 80/20 Rule Accept No Limits! Bring Added Value It is Time to Act The Big WHY Become More Success and Geography Making Wishes Come True Leadership in Tough and Challenging Times Staying Positive! The Most Influential Person In Your Life Living On Purpose Little Things Create Big Results Passion What is Stopping You? Are You Expecting or Just Hoping? Maintain a No-Fear Goal Setting Policy Self-Mastery 7 Elements of the Mastery Model Make your bed Dreams Make life worth living Allowing Difficult People and Challenging Situations to Be Your Teacher The 80/20 Rule Rules for a Perfect Day Seven Steps to Success A Lesson for Martial Artists on Team and Achieving Extraordinary Accomplishments? Black Belt Questions Who Packed Your Parachute? Balance Sheet of Life 7 Wonders of the World A great mesage to everyone Being a teacher Black On Kindness This is beautiful....hope you enjoy it as much as I did!!! Our deepest fear The Invitation WE CANNOT AFFORD TO LOSE A VOICE LIKE THAT… 7 Characteristics of Successful Parents The Brick Thank You Dumbest Kid in the World? Something we should all remember Am I Close? A teacher story Turn the sound on your computer high and listen … A Good message someone so disgusting what's important to you? Bananas Important Lesson - Always remember those who serve. Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady Stop Trying! Start Doing! Inspiration Ovation By Karen Eden Keep it Simple Sensei Martial Arts in the 21st century By Dr. Terrence Webster Doyle Meditation and the Martial Nobody Has Time for Pennies Cut from the Same Cloth Amy's House Dad By Any Other Name Is Still “Dad” I Believe in Big, Fat Karma Life is Full of Things We Don't Want to Do Inspiration Ovation Laughter, the Best Martial Arts Medicine The Sweet Smell of Success? Inspiration Ovation That Means the Baby`s Not Dying Five (5) lessons to make you think about the way we treat people. Sailor … Desiderata Wonders of the world … Attitude Is Everything by Jim Rohn Building Your Character Winning By Losing Today's Question BELIEVE IN YOURSELF! BUSHIDO: THE WAY OF THE WARRIOR Fleming Imagine Imagine Martial Arts Without Zen Multiple Options The Power of Focus Mastery The Quality Life Confident Seeing Over The Mountain - Triumph Over Tragedy Effortless Effort Make A Friend Of Fear Un-Thinking Pain Instinctive Action Mushin: Let Your Mind Flow Martial Arts Is Philosophy In Action A ROAD MAP TOWARD MORE EFFECTIVE, SUCCESSFUL LIVES: A ROAD MAP TOWARD MORE EFFECTIVE, SUCCESSFUL LIVES: Martial Arts Is Philosophy In Action Recognize a True Threat Kime:Tighten Your Mind Leaders Leaders A wonderful Message by George Carlin A wonderful Message by George Carlin Go With The Current Anger without Action Inactive Activity Active Inactivity Do Not Disturb Lengthen your Line Even The Masters Have Masters Know Your Limits Conquer Haste Seize The Moment Process Not Product Empty your Cup Geese Lumberjack Warriors and honor Sculptor River Vision Peace A note to Black Belt Candidates Our version Practice So many Culture Nest A student Sachi Understanding Crabs Time Management Principles of Black Belt in Action Assuming Enhancing Self-Management Through Technology |
Copyright © Team Karate Centers - All Rights Reserved.
|